So you’ve been told you’re a bridesmaid. You’ve popped open the champagne, shed some tears and hugged your bride-to-be; but now what do you do?
Start with the fun stuff
Keep your bride excited. If you can manage to get through the entire wedding process without a bridal meltdown, then you’re the queen of all bridesmaids. The beginning of the planning process can be overwhelming: where do you start? How much money do we have? What dress style am I even looking for?
You get the picture – it’s a big ball of unanswered questions. So take hold of the reigns and get some dates ready in the diary. Book a girly day out for a dress fitting and afternoon tea or schedule in a cake tasting session.
These fun things will keep the stress from mounting up (and you get to eat cake as well).
Make it a party
It wouldn’t be a wedding without a bridal shower or a hen do, so get planning. But make sure you bear in mind who you’re planning for. Just because you might fancy jumping on a plane and jetting off to Magaluf, does not mean that your bride-to-be would enjoy it as well.
Don’t make something that’s suppose to be a fun celebration of her and her partner’s news turn into her worst nightmare. Does she want to go abroad, or would she much prefer a quiet night in with her closest friends? And could she even go abroad on her budget? Just make sure you evaluate everything from her side, not just yours.
Grin and bear it
As a bridesmaid, you are under no means aloud to utter the words “I am not wearing that dress”. We’re not saying that you should put up with walking behind the bride in a bright orange, organza, fluffy gown, but don’t be a diva. Your number 1 job is helping the bride, so you adding a lump of stress to her plate is nothing but a hindrance.
If you’re a bridesmaid, then we’re assuming that you’re pretty close to the bride-to-be, so talk to her. Chances are she wants you to be happy, so just gently ask her if you can suggest some changes. If she’s adamant on your outfit, then we’re sorry, but you’re going to have to grin and bear it.