More often than not, the bride doesn’t have much of a say in the marriage proposal (unless you’re taking things into your own hands – good on you!) – but once you know what you want, hint dropping is an art we all need to have perfected.
The candle-lit dinner
This could be at home together, in a busy restaurant, or around a crowed family dinner table. If you want this moment to be a special, ‘just the two of you’ experience, then you need to 100% let him know how you feel. If you want it to be a surprise, then walking in on a romantic dinner could be a huge giveaway. Also, if it’s not like the two of you to take this type of romance seriously, then you might end up finding this way more funny than perfect.
*HINT: Put on a chick-flick with a proposal in the storyline – and then let it be known how much you would hate/love to be proposed to in front of a crowd.
That Special Place
Now, as a couple, you probably have a special spot somewhere – the place you first met, first date or where you said ‘I Love You’…he might have no idea where it is or why it’s special. So slowly but surely bring up memories from the destinations that hold a special place in your heart to remind him. You can really ask what you want whilst still letting him think it was all his idea. For example: ‘What’s you idea of the perfect afternoon….[his response]…Mine is a picnic on a warm summer evening, watching the sunset at that spot on the beach where we has our first date’. If his proposal cogs have already been turning (you’ll have a sneaky suspicion) then this should be his EUREKA moment.
On a Significant Day
We’ve all just finished celebrating Christmas – but did you know this is the second busiest day of the year for proposals…only behind Valentines Day. Men will always think this is the way to go. To them it means they have got you the best Christmas present ever – and completely surprised you (assuming they’ve done it more creatively than a present under the tree…). If you want your day to be special all on it’s own, then yet again you have to use a telling phrase such as, ‘I would HATE being proposed to on [insert holiday]’. On the other hand, if this is all you’ve ever wanted just reverse the saying and I’m sure it will stick.
If you have a hobby you love or something you’ve always wanted to try, like skydiving – then you can plant the seed of a unique proposal into his head. Think of what you’d like to be doing – at home or on holiday – and quite unsubtly drop the hint. Our favourite story was a couple who got engaged riding bareback horse on a Caribbean beach, coincidentally it was something she had always dreamed about….and how do you think he knew!
For Better of For Worse
You should never start a marriage without trust…so this is your test! Do you believe he can create that ever-lasting moment without any input? If you want him to plan (what he thinks) is the perfect proposal, then don’t drop the little hints and confuse him. If you’re really brave you could say ‘I know when you ask me to marry you it will be amazing’.